Accept Your Resilience

 

Resilience is the most natural human condition.

Resilience is the catalyst for all change.

Resilience is aligning with your values that you cherish about yourself.

 

And that makes it undeniably easy to do what’s needed.

 

And nothing is hard when you have aligned with your values that you most cherish.

Things cannot be easy when you forget Who you are.

 

And they cannot be easy when you pretend that life is always about you;  What you want,

What you need,  What you think,  What you decide, What you say,  What you care about.

 

And things are never easy when you neglect the essence of what makes you, You.

And the first of those is the values and qualities you most cherish about yourself.

And they always begin with resilience, the first human condition.

 

Resilience brings resources fullness, and leads to answers to alter your situation to what

you prefer it to be. Without resilience nothing is possible.

 

You are the only thing that stands between where you are right now and where you

absolutely want to be.

 

Then let go of anything else.

Then let go of anything else.

 

Resilience is an empty vessel without asking for help.

Let’s talk and get you the answers you need to make your life

the way you want it to be.

 

10 Principles of Peak Performance

Some people are interested in achievement, while others are committed. What happens next is a direct result of those choices.

Here are 10 Principles that help create Peak Performance:

  1. Clarity of Vision- This includes specific goals and outcomes that are easily measured. It also includes an elevated vision of Self. When you know Who you are, you tend to know What to do.
  2. Self-Directed Action– Always in the direction of the desired outcomes. The pre-occupation with the vision creates inspired action. All peak performers are self-motivated.
  3. High Commitment to Personal Role and Responsibility- The relentless willingness to do what’s needed, along with the determination to see the journey through, provide resilience to overcome obstacles relatively easily.
  4. Mindset of Empowerment- The “I’ve got this” focus of active positive messaging despite setbacks are all self-generated. Self-doubt is rare.
  5. Willingness to Learn– A high desire for insights that provide a competitive edge brings an openness to engage experts.
  6. Improvement, Elevation and Expansion Focus– “What makes me better?” Past success fades, and the exuberance of what else is possible replaces complacency. Refined action displaces disappointment or fear.
  7. Engagement Hunger- There’s a high desire to push Self towards outcomes while finding personal satisfaction within the effort.
  8. Working Wisdom and Honesty- The effort is focused for maximum payoff within hierarchical priorities. There’s an understanding that effort is impaired by a variety of human factors that may require balance offsets. Peak performers tell themselves the truth about how well they are doing their part.
  9. Anticipation Sensing– The ability to see, feel and know with certainty that the desired outcomes will happen. The vision becomes inevitable because of the level of personal effort and creativity.
  10. Refinement and Enjoyment- There’s an ongoing curiosity about what might be more effective, and a recognition that even the smallest distinction could create an enormous payoff. It feels good to be immersed in the hard work that creates the desired outcomes.

In my experience as a trusted advisor to many highly successful people including; Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Executives and Technology Visionary’s, this theme is consistent:

Believing in yourself is not enough.

Knowing Who you are, and the Mindset that What you want is Inevitable; are the real game-changers.

Reach out and we’ll talk about what’s important to you.

The Art of Self-Neglect

The most trying times in life are not the struggles as much as our internal dilemma:

  • Do we choose to rise up, or not?
  • Do we decide that we are bigger than this thing, or not?
  • Do we accept our capacity to work our way through?

Will we honor the truth; that we have more strength and resilience inside each of us, waiting patiently to be discovered?

In the hurry up living that we all too often find ourselves engulfed in, Where do we allow for moments of offset?

  • Offsets to stress
  • Offsets to self-neglect
  • Offsets to unhappiness
  • Offsets to unhealthy lifestyles
  • Offsets to relationship dysfunction
  • Offsets to burnout and overwhelm

Some part of us yearns for more aliveness in the choices we are making, more depth to the meanings in our lives, and greater inner peace.

The funny thing is while we may want those things; Who has the time?

Unfortunately, to choose self-neglect over anything else is unwise. as the consequences inevitably find their way too us.

Time is short. Choose wisely.

Talk to me.

  1. You’ll know the most important areas of overall life success.
  2. You’ll know what’s needed for greater personal fulfillment and happiness.
  3. You’ll know what to do next.

Healing Your Emotional Life for Good

First some background.

Everything you’ve seen, felt, and experienced has been stored away in your mind.

Even the things you didn’t want to see and hear are recorded in the background of your unconscious mind.

Besides the obvious events, this is how things get in:

Whatever you do, don’t think about the blue giraffe with the pink bow. Don’t think about that blue giraffe and pink bow. Try harder not to think about the blue giraffe and pink bow.  

In order to understand this thought, your brain has to show you the image even if you don’t want to see it. That’s the way unpleasant experiences get recorded even when you want to forget them.

Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is archived and part of your programming.

As a result, we are all on auto-pilot more than we realize.

This is how habitual ways of thinking and feeling occur within us. When your buttons get pushed it’s usually more programming than the current thing that person said or did.

What you may not know is that you have the power to take control of your emotions, and to upgrade your own programming.

Think of it like this:

Imagine an enormous white board surrounding you, filled with everything that’s happened to you and everything you’ve ever heard and experienced.

Some examples:

That thing that happened to you in 1st grade, What your mom said when you were 9, That thing you did and got hurt, That person who said you weren’t good enough, The girl who rejected you, The boy who broke your heart, The emptiness you felt when….., That person who didn’t like you, That time you felt shame, That time your feelings were ignored, That big mistake you made, …etc.

That’s a tiny sample of your unconscious world and what drives your programming.

The only way to change your programming is to get in there and erase some of the nonsense on your white board.

It doesn’t happen by talking about the specific issues.

And it won’t happen by saying these types of things over and over to yourself:

“Don’t get angry, Don’t get sad, Don’t get upset, Don’t get frustrated, Don’t get anxious, Don’t feel guilty, Don’t compare yourself,” etc….

Here’s one way that will begin to wipe away the things that don’t serve you.

Start talking to your body, and telling parts of it that you love them.  

As the author of The Accelerated Healing of Chronic Illness, I have found these conversations to be highly effective in erasing disempowering unconscious programing. I’ve also done it with hundreds of people so I have good evidence to support this.

Here’s how you begin to heal your emotional life for good:

  1. Find someplace quiet where you won’t be interrupted for 5 minutes.
  2. Close your eyes, and scan your body from a place of curiosity, and just be aware of how you feel and what you notice. That will take less than 30 seconds.
  3. Tell your body and a variety of body parts that you love them. Simply tune into a particular body part and say,” I love you”, and feel grateful for that body part. Go slowly and take about 10 seconds for each body part before moving on.

It might look like this:

I tune into my heart. And I might even imagine an image of my heart, or simply focus on connecting  with my heart. I could put my hand over my heart to increase the feeling of connection as well.

Next, while feeling grateful for my heart, either out loud or to myself I say, ” I love you heart”,….and …“Thank you for all you do for me.”  I do that slowly and meaningfully, while feeling grateful for my heart.  That’s it.

  1. notice what happens… Are you aware of anything changing; either in how you feel, or in any imagined image of your heart before compared with after? Do feel differently in any way? There is no right or wrong about what happens, or doesn’t happen. Either way is perfectly fine.
  2. Next, pick another body part and do the same thing. Notice if you sense that some particular part of your body might benefit. Try different parts of your body out of curiosity. Try your liver, brain, eyes, nervous system, thyroid, spleen, lungs, etc….Keep going to different body parts for about 5 minutes and you are done.

Now that you’re done, scan your body again, and be curious how you feel overall, and if you feel or notice any other changes.

This is a profoundly powerful exercise. It was part of my self-heaiing process that allowed me to heal myself from eight years of undiagnosed chronic Lyme Disease. It works.

Try this out for yourself without expectations of any kind. Just be willing to see what happens for yourself.  Make it part of your daily routine by setting aside 5 minutes at about the same time every day,  or as often as you like.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised. Enjoy!

If you want to learn how to accelerate your own evolution, and release the hidden emotions driving your behaviors reach out here; jeff@peakresultscoaching.com

 

Your Success Becomes What You Believe

Do you believe in yourself enough?

Who sets the limits on what’s possible in your life?  What expert has the divine authority to tell you that you can’t do something?

Records were made to be broken.  Barriers were built to be torn down.  The impossible happens every day by someone who didn’t get the message that it wasn’t possible for them.  They didn’t hear the outside voices of influence, but listened to their own heart’s calling to do something great.

We were born for greatness.  We were born to allow our own uniqueness to shine in the world.  At some point did you let a moment of self doubt, or someone else’s doubt creep in and crush your dreams?

What we believe has incredible power over us.  It’s success and failure before we begin.  It builds the foundation for what we are willing to do, and it’s powerful beyond measure.

Imagine all the things that at one time were completely beyond our understanding of what’s possible. The US just tested an aircraft that flew 20x the speed of sound.  That’s New York to Los Angeles in less than 12 minutes.  Impossible?  I recently watched a 250 lb man do 1 fingered push ups live, not on video.  A small thing maybe, but an enormous, mind boggling thing at the same time.  Do not try that at home.  Have you ever seen what people are doing today on bikes and skateboards?  Are you aware of the fortunes being made by those who believe totally in what they are doing?  Have you watched records fall every four years in the Olympics? How is all that possible?

The fastest, strongest, biggest, best…Every record ever made will eventually be broken by someone who believes.  Who is to say what’s possible for you, other than you.  If you have a dream and a willingness to do whatever it takes to make it real, it can happen.

What do you believe about YOU?  What are YOU capable of achieving?

Do you believe that you are here for a purpose?

Do you believe that you have time to do what’s most important in your life?

Do you believe that you can be happy and not have stress in your life?

Do you believe that you can be a multimillionaire?

Do you believe that you can have an incredible, passionate, loving marriage that lasts?

If you are lacking something in your life, take a look at what you believe to be possible about it.  Are you limiting yourself by not believing in YOU enough?  Are you limiting yourself by not doing everything YOU can to make it happen?

Your future is up to you.  Not someone else.  Nothing from the past other than lessons learned, and experience gained, matters now.  What would it take for you to believe in yourself even more fully?  Success is not a matter of chance; it’s a matter of choice.  Choose to believe in your possibilities. Choose to do what you can to make it happen.

Your future is unlimited  If you are serious about going after your dreams and want some help, send an email to jeff@peakresultscoaching.com  I believe in you, and want you to know that you can do whatever you set your heart and mind to.  Someone recently told me that I helped make what they believed to be impossible possible.  Maybe I just believed in them a little more than they did.

3 Big Mistakes That Limit Success

Time For a Breakthrough!

What holds you back from the success that you have always wanted?  Have you ever found yourself struggling to break out to higher levels of achievement?

We all make mistakes.  In my work with hundreds of business executives who have achieved a wide range of success, I find these 3 mistakes to be the most damaging.

  1. Lack of Confidence- Even the most successful athlete or business executive experiences moments of time where confidence dips.  This is often a result of a struggle in their personal life, or performance below their expectations.  The results of this lower confidence can be devastating to the individual because of the pressures to produce results at superior levels.  Frequently this stress is self defeating and leads to plateaus of success in a range where they feel safe. They are no longer are able to give their best effort because their confidence can’t afford to take another hit.

 

  1. Fear of Failure – Everyone experiences fear at some level; fear of not being enough, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear from the past, fear of success…The fear of failure is another big mistake that limits success.  Why would you put your heart and soul into anything if you are afraid of failing? That’s too risky.  Many people wait until they have everything perfectly lined up before getting started.  They think this reduces their chances of failure. This however, proves to be an illusion because nothing is ever perfect enough, so they never go for it.  This fear of failure actually prevents them from getting started. Fear of failure keeps people from giving their best effort, because their is too much at stake.  If you give your best effort and fail, this reinforces the belief that you aren’t good enough.   If you have made mistake in the past, the fear of repeating them, or failing again, is enough to get you to do very little.  There appears to be comfort in not going for it, but it inevitably turns into long term pain.

 

  1. Using Bad Strategies- You can be the most confident, fearless person in the world, but if you use lousy strategies, your success is limited.  An interesting phenomenon is that I consistently see bad strategies used in interactions between couples, and it pushes them apart, leading to resentment and stress. This stress spills over into business lives and leads to reduced confidence, resulting in an undercurrent of unhappiness.  Because there is already stress and pressure in business, this unwelcome addition wreaks havoc on the relationship, and business performance.  How often does this extra stress lead to the use of bad business strategies?  I see it frequently.

 

The low confidence, fearful life, using bad strategies is not much fun.  If you were to honestly evaluate your performance based on these 3 criteria alone, you might come to some interesting conclusions.

Do you believe in yourself enough?  Does fear limit you?  Are your strategies effective? 

The level of success you want is not going to happen unless you change one of these 3 areas.  How do you know what’s possible in your life?  Unless you have decided that  self imposed limitation is a good thing, there are better answers for you. Connect with me to learn more about the real solutions to your specific situation.   Send an email to jeff@peakresultscoaching.com  We are either opening up our possibilities, or closing them off.  You get to decide which you prefer in your life.

 

 

Your Self Confidence Misses You!

Maybe it’s time to reconnect.   

In case you didn’t know or forgot, self confidence is the foundation of happiness and success.  How you feel about yourself matters.  It’s not a little thing.  It’s everything!

It determines your willingness to go after the things that make you happy.  It expands the possibilities in your life.  It gives you a real sense of worth.  It’s the intangible that allows for the greatness in you to pour out.  (fyi-You do have greatness in you.)

Whatever you believe to be true…is!  Whatever you believe about yourself is the foundation of your success and happiness before you begin.

Let me tell you a secret…You were born with confidence.  You were born to struggle through adversity and challenge, and come out on the other side smarter, stronger, and more resilient.  You were born to make mistakes, and to learn, and grow, and stretch yourself.

Maybe you forgot that you are this ingenious survivor who can withstand any challenge that comes your way.  Maybe you even forgot some of the lessons of previous tough times as I have.  Did you know that everyone struggles from time to time?  Everyone goes through their own version of some brutal adversity that shakes them to their core.

Who did you become as a result of going through those tough times?  Did you become stronger, or weaker?  Did you become less of a person somehow, or more?  At the depth of the greatest challenges in your life exists a moment... A moment where you make a decision; to pull yourself up out of the funk, or lay in it.   You either resolve to do whatever it takes, or give up.

Who we become is measured in those moments, and it affects our self confidence. Our story traps us, or frees us.   The truly amazing thing is that you can lay in the funk and give up for 10 years, and then just all of a sudden decide that you’ve had enough.  The life that sucked for so long can change instantly.  Your focus can shift even now, and you can discover a hunger and a determination to fully LIVE your life.  You can reach inside of yourself and remember this incredible courage.  The courage that gives you the strength to say ENOUGH!

Courage allows you to remember who you are.  Courage is the fuel to ignite a blaze of confidence within you.  You have always been courageous!  You have always been brave!  Courage is your path back to confidence.

Sometimes we forget, and need to be reminded that it’s easy to find just 20 seconds of courage to step up and face your fear.  20 seconds to reconnect with your confidence.  20 seconds that can change your life.

Self Confidence is the reason people with less talent, less ability, and less intelligence become happier, and more successful, than people who have much more of those same things.

Who gives you self confidence?  You do!  Who gets hurt if you don’t feel good about yourself?  You do!  And unfortunately so do the people around you.

Everything you have done well or poorly in your life; mistakes or success… has brought you to this moment in time …right here, right now…reading these words… You have the power within you of incredible influence.  You can imagine beginning to have an understanding, to live a larger, more meaningful life, and impact those around you.  What will you do with it?  Will you step up and connect with your confidence and courage, to do what you really want to do, or always regret that you did not.

This might be just another article to read, or maybe this is your life calling…

You could choose to do nothing.  How long does the pain of regret  last anyway?  Your future is waiting to be written.  Looking back, what did you want it say about you?    Someone,…right now,  is making a new decision,… maybe that’s you.