Activating Your Mindset for Greatness

Greatness happens in ways most people don’t pay attention to.

There isn’t anything special about it. There’s no secret birthright required.

  • It’s hard work.
  • It’s difficult.
  • It isn’t easy ever.

But what people miss is that those who are great at anything find a way to consistently do what most others don’t want to.

And they do it whether they feel motivated that day or not.

They do what they think is going to make them better, all the time. They can’t imagine not doing it.

They enjoy the grind of the hard work. They enjoy the challenge to improve. They enjoy feeling the competitive nature that drives them.

This working to improve themselves matters greatly.

In some ways as much as the victories, financial rewards, or championships. In the blink of any eye the season and year are over. Great people may tally their winnings and accolades but they get right back to work.

When you’re at the top, that becomes an emotional element. The work, the effort, the focus, the concentration, the sacrifice; it’s always somehow worth it.

It feels good. It feels right.

Warriors, scholars, innovators, entrepreneurs, athletes all go through the same process emotionally.

No practice or work routine is always exciting and filled with a rush of adrenaline. But it gets done anyway.

Will you love what you do enough to become great at it?

  • To embrace the dull and repetitive elements of getting better?
  • To face the grinding work with discipline, focus, and determination to improve?

When you do those things, greatness begins to take form in your craft.

You become great at anything day by day through your immersion in the subject. It gathers momentum through your relentless effort to fulfill a dream or burning desire; to be or do something extraordinary.

If you’re ready to tap into your true potential; reach out to talk with me here.

 

 

10 Principles of Peak Performance

Some people are interested in achievement, while others are committed. What happens next is a direct result of those choices.

Here are 10 Principles that help create Peak Performance:

  1. Clarity of Vision- This includes specific goals and outcomes that are easily measured. It also includes an elevated vision of Self. When you know Who you are, you tend to know What to do.
  2. Self-Directed Action– Always in the direction of the desired outcomes. The pre-occupation with the vision creates inspired action. All peak performers are self-motivated.
  3. High Commitment to Personal Role and Responsibility- The relentless willingness to do what’s needed, along with the determination to see the journey through, provide resilience to overcome obstacles relatively easily.
  4. Mindset of Empowerment- The “I’ve got this” focus of active positive messaging despite setbacks are all self-generated. Self-doubt is rare.
  5. Willingness to Learn– A high desire for insights that provide a competitive edge brings an openness to engage experts.
  6. Improvement, Elevation and Expansion Focus– “What makes me better?” Past success fades, and the exuberance of what else is possible replaces complacency. Refined action displaces disappointment or fear.
  7. Engagement Hunger- There’s a high desire to push Self towards outcomes while finding personal satisfaction within the effort.
  8. Working Wisdom and Honesty- The effort is focused for maximum payoff within hierarchical priorities. There’s an understanding that effort is impaired by a variety of human factors that may require balance offsets. Peak performers tell themselves the truth about how well they are doing their part.
  9. Anticipation Sensing– The ability to see, feel and know with certainty that the desired outcomes will happen. The vision becomes inevitable because of the level of personal effort and creativity.
  10. Refinement and Enjoyment- There’s an ongoing curiosity about what might be more effective, and a recognition that even the smallest distinction could create an enormous payoff. It feels good to be immersed in the hard work that creates the desired outcomes.

In my experience as a trusted advisor to many highly successful people including; Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Executives and Technology Visionary’s, this theme is consistent:

Believing in yourself is not enough.

Knowing Who you are, and the Mindset that What you want is Inevitable; are the real game-changers.

Reach out and we’ll talk about what’s important to you.

The Art of Self-Neglect

The most trying times in life are not the struggles as much as our internal dilemma:

  • Do we choose to rise up, or not?
  • Do we decide that we are bigger than this thing, or not?
  • Do we accept our capacity to work our way through?

Will we honor the truth; that we have more strength and resilience inside each of us, waiting patiently to be discovered?

In the hurry up living that we all too often find ourselves engulfed in, Where do we allow for moments of offset?

  • Offsets to stress
  • Offsets to self-neglect
  • Offsets to unhappiness
  • Offsets to unhealthy lifestyles
  • Offsets to relationship dysfunction
  • Offsets to burnout and overwhelm

Some part of us yearns for more aliveness in the choices we are making, more depth to the meanings in our lives, and greater inner peace.

The funny thing is while we may want those things; Who has the time?

Unfortunately, to choose self-neglect over anything else is unwise. as the consequences inevitably find their way too us.

Time is short. Choose wisely.

Talk to me.

  1. You’ll know the most important areas of overall life success.
  2. You’ll know what’s needed for greater personal fulfillment and happiness.
  3. You’ll know what to do next.

Measure Your Greatness

There is only one personally meaningful measure of greatness.

That you gave your gifts without apology and at such a high level you inspired others to reach for the same or more, while being personally at peace with yourself.

There is no greatness if you never feel at peace with your effort or achievements, because you will always feel unsatisfied.

It’s hard to feel great if you are filled with regret, or never gave your best, or never achieved the level of success you aspired to.

In my conversations with Olympic and Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Sr. Executives and other highly successful people, one thing is clear:

The inner peace comes only from the self-honesty of whether you laid it all on the line or not.

Measured perhaps by the mirror test that the most decorated US Winter Olympic Athlete  Apolo Ohno talks about in his book Zero Regrets;

  • “Did I do everything I could today to become a champion?”

You might ask; Did i do everything I could today to achieve my outcomes?

Did I personally win the day with my effort, my focus, my commitment, my resolve, and my leadership?

The mark of greatness lends itself to being fully aware of these things.

The other element is how you handle pressure.

The higher the level, the greater the heat.

Great people are able to meet pressure with the delivery of their best effort while embracing the pressure. Some part of them wants to lay it all on the line giving their best; win or lose.

While everyone wants to win, or achieve at high levels, giving everything you have is in some ways more meaningful.

Maybe victory over self is the sweetest victory of all.

The imposter syndrome defines those who would fear to be found out as frauds for achieving their attained levels of success, because they have not had to dig deep inside themselves to give their best effort, nor had to overcome harsh adversities on their path to success. In many ways their path was too easy, and knowing this eats away at their self-worth.

Awards and achievements will never fulfill compared to the personal satisfaction and inner peace obtained through the delivery of your best.

And if you aspire to do great things, you will find that the delivery of your best is an upward moving target.

Reach out to me here if you are ready to tap into more of your own greatness.

 

 

Healing Your Emotional Life for Good

First some background.

Everything you’ve seen, felt, and experienced has been stored away in your mind.

Even the things you didn’t want to see and hear are recorded in the background of your unconscious mind.

Besides the obvious events, this is how things get in:

Whatever you do, don’t think about the blue giraffe with the pink bow. Don’t think about that blue giraffe and pink bow. Try harder not to think about the blue giraffe and pink bow.  

In order to understand this thought, your brain has to show you the image even if you don’t want to see it. That’s the way unpleasant experiences get recorded even when you want to forget them.

Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is archived and part of your programming.

As a result, we are all on auto-pilot more than we realize.

This is how habitual ways of thinking and feeling occur within us. When your buttons get pushed it’s usually more programming than the current thing that person said or did.

What you may not know is that you have the power to take control of your emotions, and to upgrade your own programming.

Think of it like this:

Imagine an enormous white board surrounding you, filled with everything that’s happened to you and everything you’ve ever heard and experienced.

Some examples:

That thing that happened to you in 1st grade, What your mom said when you were 9, That thing you did and got hurt, That person who said you weren’t good enough, The girl who rejected you, The boy who broke your heart, The emptiness you felt when….., That person who didn’t like you, That time you felt shame, That time your feelings were ignored, That big mistake you made, …etc.

That’s a tiny sample of your unconscious world and what drives your programming.

The only way to change your programming is to get in there and erase some of the nonsense on your white board.

It doesn’t happen by talking about the specific issues.

And it won’t happen by saying these types of things over and over to yourself:

“Don’t get angry, Don’t get sad, Don’t get upset, Don’t get frustrated, Don’t get anxious, Don’t feel guilty, Don’t compare yourself,” etc….

Here’s one way that will begin to wipe away the things that don’t serve you.

Start talking to your body, and telling parts of it that you love them.  

As the author of The Accelerated Healing of Chronic Illness, I have found these conversations to be highly effective in erasing disempowering unconscious programing. I’ve also done it with hundreds of people so I have good evidence to support this.

Here’s how you begin to heal your emotional life for good:

  1. Find someplace quiet where you won’t be interrupted for 5 minutes.
  2. Close your eyes, and scan your body from a place of curiosity, and just be aware of how you feel and what you notice. That will take less than 30 seconds.
  3. Tell your body and a variety of body parts that you love them. Simply tune into a particular body part and say,” I love you”, and feel grateful for that body part. Go slowly and take about 10 seconds for each body part before moving on.

It might look like this:

I tune into my heart. And I might even imagine an image of my heart, or simply focus on connecting  with my heart. I could put my hand over my heart to increase the feeling of connection as well.

Next, while feeling grateful for my heart, either out loud or to myself I say, ” I love you heart”,….and …“Thank you for all you do for me.”  I do that slowly and meaningfully, while feeling grateful for my heart.  That’s it.

  1. notice what happens… Are you aware of anything changing; either in how you feel, or in any imagined image of your heart before compared with after? Do feel differently in any way? There is no right or wrong about what happens, or doesn’t happen. Either way is perfectly fine.
  2. Next, pick another body part and do the same thing. Notice if you sense that some particular part of your body might benefit. Try different parts of your body out of curiosity. Try your liver, brain, eyes, nervous system, thyroid, spleen, lungs, etc….Keep going to different body parts for about 5 minutes and you are done.

Now that you’re done, scan your body again, and be curious how you feel overall, and if you feel or notice any other changes.

This is a profoundly powerful exercise. It was part of my self-heaiing process that allowed me to heal myself from eight years of undiagnosed chronic Lyme Disease. It works.

Try this out for yourself without expectations of any kind. Just be willing to see what happens for yourself.  Make it part of your daily routine by setting aside 5 minutes at about the same time every day,  or as often as you like.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised. Enjoy!

If you want to learn how to accelerate your own evolution, and release the hidden emotions driving your behaviors reach out here; jeff@peakresultscoaching.com

 

Interested in Being a Better Leader?

The essence of leadership is a willingness to align yourself with what you believe to be important,  and the interests of the people who look to you for direction.

Nothing matters more than your recognition that they matter. And until they know it, they’re unlikely to care very much.

You are measured every day in how you demonstrate that, often in the most subtle of ways.

When morale, job performance and loyalty are less than desired, that’s the thing that needs to change the most.

Why will they want to work their hearts out for you?

As you may be aware, the #1 reason people leave their job is because of a bad boss or manager. That stated another way is a leader who doesn’t know how to demonstrate caring about people.

When you know WHO you are,… and are true to yourself,

Then you know WHAT to do,…and you do it.

The ability to understand yourself can be a catalyst for the empowerment of others. That happens through the recognition of your own thought and feeling life. The very essence of your own happiness is created and sustained here.

My approach to helping leaders become more influential starts here. Reach out if you’d like to begin to explore that for yourself.

Let’s talk. Schedule a Conversation here: 

 

Your Mindset for Success Matters

Listen to your heart, or someone else?

I imagine as a child, or even as a teen that you had dreams to do something big in your life.  Did you achieve those dreams, or did you get sidetracked by someone else’s reality.

My dream was to play major college football.  When I asked my high school coach to send a game film out to a top level school, he laughed out loud, and said that I couldn’t possibly play at that level of competition.  Having someone I respected laugh in my face wasn’t much fun.

Now I could have listened to him and done what he suggested, and given up on my dream.  But it was my dream.  Who was he to say that it wasn’t possible for me?

I remember telling my father I was going to become a financial advisor, and that the lowest paid financial advisor in the office was making more than $45,000 at the time, which was more than he was making.  He told me that was BS and that it wasn’t possible.

When I became a financial advisor, 4 weeks into the job, the most successful financial advisor in the region took me aside and told me that I would never make it, that I wasn’t any good at it, and that I should quit because it just wasn’t for me.  He said that there were better things suited for me, and I was just wasting my time.  But it wasn’t up to him.  It was up to me.

How many people have counted you out and you let them?  My own list of naysayers is extensive.  If I had listened to the doctors, and teachers, and coaches and experts, I would never have achieved any of the success that I’ve had.  My life experience would be totally different, and I would be different too.

My ability to focus totally on what I wanted, no matter what anyone was saying, no matter what anyone else thought about me, was crucial to my success.  My willingness to do whatever it took to make my dreams happen was the intangible that others couldn’t comprehend.

If I was going to fail at anything, I was going to fail giving everything that I had to create my vision. Who could possibly predict my outcome when they didn’t understand my mindset of determination and commitment?   How could anyone anticipate my willingness to give a total effort?  Who could predict what I was willing to sacrifice, and endure, to get what I wanted.  Most importantly, who could ever know how much I believed in me?

I did play major college football with full scholarships and on national TV, and in the Rose Bowl.  I did become very successful as a financial advisor, and then as a manager of financial advisors (another story of what was not possible) that led to a successful 24 year career.  I also made lots of mistakes that were all part of the process of growing and learning.

My mindset was everything in my success.  Have you ever wanted something so badly in your life that you were willing to do anything to make it happen?  For me, a resolve takes over, and I can feel it inside, and then the thing I want is already done.  Then I get to work on it.

What you believe about yourself becomes your truth.  Decide what you want to make happen in your life.  Engage your mindset for success.  Decide on the dreams you want to pursue with all of your heart.  Then go do it.  I believe that great things are possible for you, and even though I may not know you yet… I believe in you!