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Measure Your Greatness

There is only one personally meaningful measure of greatness.

That you gave your gifts without apology and at such a high level you inspired others to reach for the same or more, while being personally at peace with yourself.

There is no greatness if you never feel at peace with your effort or achievements, because you will always feel unsatisfied.

It’s hard to feel great if you are filled with regret, or never gave your best, or never achieved the level of success you aspired to.

In my conversations with Olympic and Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Sr. Executives and other highly successful people, one thing is clear:

The inner peace comes only from the self-honesty of whether you laid it all on the line or not.

Measured perhaps by the mirror test that the most decorated US Winter Olympic Athlete  Apolo Ohno talks about in his book Zero Regrets;

  • “Did I do everything I could today to become a champion?”

You might ask; Did i do everything I could today to achieve my outcomes?

Did I personally win the day with my effort, my focus, my commitment, my resolve, and my leadership?

The mark of greatness lends itself to being fully aware of these things.

The other element is how you handle pressure.

The higher the level, the greater the heat.

Great people are able to meet pressure with the delivery of their best effort while embracing the pressure. Some part of them wants to lay it all on the line giving their best; win or lose.

While everyone wants to win, or achieve at high levels, giving everything you have is in some ways more meaningful.

Maybe victory over self is the sweetest victory of all.

The imposter syndrome defines those who would fear to be found out as frauds for achieving their attained levels of success, because they have not had to dig deep inside themselves to give their best effort, nor had to overcome harsh adversities on their path to success. In many ways their path was too easy, and knowing this eats away at their self-worth.

Awards and achievements will never fulfill compared to the personal satisfaction and inner peace obtained through the delivery of your best.

And if you aspire to do great things, you will find that the delivery of your best is an upward moving target.

Reach out to me here if you are ready to tap into more of your own greatness.

 

 

Healing Your Emotional Life for Good

First some background.

Everything you’ve seen, felt, and experienced has been stored away in your mind.

Even the things you didn’t want to see and hear are recorded in the background of your unconscious mind.

Besides the obvious events, this is how things get in:

Whatever you do, don’t think about the blue giraffe with the pink bow. Don’t think about that blue giraffe and pink bow. Try harder not to think about the blue giraffe and pink bow.  

In order to understand this thought, your brain has to show you the image even if you don’t want to see it. That’s the way unpleasant experiences get recorded even when you want to forget them.

Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is archived and part of your programming.

As a result, we are all on auto-pilot more than we realize.

This is how habitual ways of thinking and feeling occur within us. When your buttons get pushed it’s usually more programming than the current thing that person said or did.

What you may not know is that you have the power to take control of your emotions, and to upgrade your own programming.

Think of it like this:

Imagine an enormous white board surrounding you, filled with everything that’s happened to you and everything you’ve ever heard and experienced.

Some examples:

That thing that happened to you in 1st grade, What your mom said when you were 9, That thing you did and got hurt, That person who said you weren’t good enough, The girl who rejected you, The boy who broke your heart, The emptiness you felt when….., That person who didn’t like you, That time you felt shame, That time your feelings were ignored, That big mistake you made, …etc.

That’s a tiny sample of your unconscious world and what drives your programming.

The only way to change your programming is to get in there and erase some of the nonsense on your white board.

It doesn’t happen by talking about the specific issues.

And it won’t happen by saying these types of things over and over to yourself:

“Don’t get angry, Don’t get sad, Don’t get upset, Don’t get frustrated, Don’t get anxious, Don’t feel guilty, Don’t compare yourself,” etc….

Here’s one way that will begin to wipe away the things that don’t serve you.

Start talking to your body, and telling parts of it that you love them.  

As the author of The Accelerated Healing of Chronic Illness, I have found these conversations to be highly effective in erasing disempowering unconscious programing. I’ve also done it with hundreds of people so I have good evidence to support this.

Here’s how you begin to heal your emotional life for good:

  1. Find someplace quiet where you won’t be interrupted for 5 minutes.
  2. Close your eyes, and scan your body from a place of curiosity, and just be aware of how you feel and what you notice. That will take less than 30 seconds.
  3. Tell your body and a variety of body parts that you love them. Simply tune into a particular body part and say,” I love you”, and feel grateful for that body part. Go slowly and take about 10 seconds for each body part before moving on.

It might look like this:

I tune into my heart. And I might even imagine an image of my heart, or simply focus on connecting  with my heart. I could put my hand over my heart to increase the feeling of connection as well.

Next, while feeling grateful for my heart, either out loud or to myself I say, ” I love you heart”,….and …“Thank you for all you do for me.”  I do that slowly and meaningfully, while feeling grateful for my heart.  That’s it.

  1. notice what happens… Are you aware of anything changing; either in how you feel, or in any imagined image of your heart before compared with after? Do feel differently in any way? There is no right or wrong about what happens, or doesn’t happen. Either way is perfectly fine.
  2. Next, pick another body part and do the same thing. Notice if you sense that some particular part of your body might benefit. Try different parts of your body out of curiosity. Try your liver, brain, eyes, nervous system, thyroid, spleen, lungs, etc….Keep going to different body parts for about 5 minutes and you are done.

Now that you’re done, scan your body again, and be curious how you feel overall, and if you feel or notice any other changes.

This is a profoundly powerful exercise. It was part of my self-heaiing process that allowed me to heal myself from eight years of undiagnosed chronic Lyme Disease. It works.

Try this out for yourself without expectations of any kind. Just be willing to see what happens for yourself.  Make it part of your daily routine by setting aside 5 minutes at about the same time every day,  or as often as you like.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised. Enjoy!

If you want to learn how to accelerate your own evolution, and release the hidden emotions driving your behaviors reach out here; jeff@peakresultscoaching.com

 

Your Success Becomes What You Believe

Do you believe in yourself enough?

Who sets the limits on what’s possible in your life?  What expert has the divine authority to tell you that you can’t do something?

Records were made to be broken.  Barriers were built to be torn down.  The impossible happens every day by someone who didn’t get the message that it wasn’t possible for them.  They didn’t hear the outside voices of influence, but listened to their own heart’s calling to do something great.

We were born for greatness.  We were born to allow our own uniqueness to shine in the world.  At some point did you let a moment of self doubt, or someone else’s doubt creep in and crush your dreams?

What we believe has incredible power over us.  It’s success and failure before we begin.  It builds the foundation for what we are willing to do, and it’s powerful beyond measure.

Imagine all the things that at one time were completely beyond our understanding of what’s possible. The US just tested an aircraft that flew 20x the speed of sound.  That’s New York to Los Angeles in less than 12 minutes.  Impossible?  I recently watched a 250 lb man do 1 fingered push ups live, not on video.  A small thing maybe, but an enormous, mind boggling thing at the same time.  Do not try that at home.  Have you ever seen what people are doing today on bikes and skateboards?  Are you aware of the fortunes being made by those who believe totally in what they are doing?  Have you watched records fall every four years in the Olympics? How is all that possible?

The fastest, strongest, biggest, best…Every record ever made will eventually be broken by someone who believes.  Who is to say what’s possible for you, other than you.  If you have a dream and a willingness to do whatever it takes to make it real, it can happen.

What do you believe about YOU?  What are YOU capable of achieving?

Do you believe that you are here for a purpose?

Do you believe that you have time to do what’s most important in your life?

Do you believe that you can be happy and not have stress in your life?

Do you believe that you can be a multimillionaire?

Do you believe that you can have an incredible, passionate, loving marriage that lasts?

If you are lacking something in your life, take a look at what you believe to be possible about it.  Are you limiting yourself by not believing in YOU enough?  Are you limiting yourself by not doing everything YOU can to make it happen?

Your future is up to you.  Not someone else.  Nothing from the past other than lessons learned, and experience gained, matters now.  What would it take for you to believe in yourself even more fully?  Success is not a matter of chance; it’s a matter of choice.  Choose to believe in your possibilities. Choose to do what you can to make it happen.

Your future is unlimited  If you are serious about going after your dreams and want some help, send an email to jeff@peakresultscoaching.com  I believe in you, and want you to know that you can do whatever you set your heart and mind to.  Someone recently told me that I helped make what they believed to be impossible possible.  Maybe I just believed in them a little more than they did.

3 Big Mistakes That Limit Success

Time For a Breakthrough!

What holds you back from the success that you have always wanted?  Have you ever found yourself struggling to break out to higher levels of achievement?

We all make mistakes.  In my work with hundreds of business executives who have achieved a wide range of success, I find these 3 mistakes to be the most damaging.

  1. Lack of Confidence- Even the most successful athlete or business executive experiences moments of time where confidence dips.  This is often a result of a struggle in their personal life, or performance below their expectations.  The results of this lower confidence can be devastating to the individual because of the pressures to produce results at superior levels.  Frequently this stress is self defeating and leads to plateaus of success in a range where they feel safe. They are no longer are able to give their best effort because their confidence can’t afford to take another hit.

 

  1. Fear of Failure – Everyone experiences fear at some level; fear of not being enough, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear from the past, fear of success…The fear of failure is another big mistake that limits success.  Why would you put your heart and soul into anything if you are afraid of failing? That’s too risky.  Many people wait until they have everything perfectly lined up before getting started.  They think this reduces their chances of failure. This however, proves to be an illusion because nothing is ever perfect enough, so they never go for it.  This fear of failure actually prevents them from getting started. Fear of failure keeps people from giving their best effort, because their is too much at stake.  If you give your best effort and fail, this reinforces the belief that you aren’t good enough.   If you have made mistake in the past, the fear of repeating them, or failing again, is enough to get you to do very little.  There appears to be comfort in not going for it, but it inevitably turns into long term pain.

 

  1. Using Bad Strategies- You can be the most confident, fearless person in the world, but if you use lousy strategies, your success is limited.  An interesting phenomenon is that I consistently see bad strategies used in interactions between couples, and it pushes them apart, leading to resentment and stress. This stress spills over into business lives and leads to reduced confidence, resulting in an undercurrent of unhappiness.  Because there is already stress and pressure in business, this unwelcome addition wreaks havoc on the relationship, and business performance.  How often does this extra stress lead to the use of bad business strategies?  I see it frequently.

 

The low confidence, fearful life, using bad strategies is not much fun.  If you were to honestly evaluate your performance based on these 3 criteria alone, you might come to some interesting conclusions.

Do you believe in yourself enough?  Does fear limit you?  Are your strategies effective? 

The level of success you want is not going to happen unless you change one of these 3 areas.  How do you know what’s possible in your life?  Unless you have decided that  self imposed limitation is a good thing, there are better answers for you. Connect with me to learn more about the real solutions to your specific situation.   Send an email to jeff@peakresultscoaching.com  We are either opening up our possibilities, or closing them off.  You get to decide which you prefer in your life.