The Difficult Truth About Leadership

It’s no secret that employee turnover is directly related to the quality of leadership.

The difficult truth is; that might be you.

People have no interest in being part of an agenda.

  • They are interested in being valued for their contribution.
  • They are interested in being part of something important.
  • They are interested in honesty, fairness, openness, and collaboration; as long as these qualities exist in their managers.
  • They are interested in growing, learning and feeling supported in their development.
  • They are interested in feedback that supports their career path.
  • They are interested in someone to watch out for them and guide them as a mentor.

As a leader, do these things and watch the turnover numbers fall.

Leaders who fail to do these things will always experience high turnover and burn out.

When you think you’ve developed yourself enough as a leader, that’s the time others start to surpass you.

Your VIP title isn’t enough.

You’ll need real skills and a commitment to retain your key talent.

The mindset of “good enough” is what keeps leaders and organizations from being great.

To accelerate your leadership development reach out to talk with me.

Accept Your Resilience

 

Resilience is the most natural human condition.

Resilience is the catalyst for all change.

Resilience is aligning with your values that you cherish about yourself.

 

And that makes it undeniably easy to do what’s needed.

 

And nothing is hard when you have aligned with your values that you most cherish.

Things cannot be easy when you forget Who you are.

 

And they cannot be easy when you pretend that life is always about you;  What you want,

What you need,  What you think,  What you decide, What you say,  What you care about.

 

And things are never easy when you neglect the essence of what makes you, You.

And the first of those is the values and qualities you most cherish about yourself.

And they always begin with resilience, the first human condition.

 

Resilience brings resources fullness, and leads to answers to alter your situation to what

you prefer it to be. Without resilience nothing is possible.

 

You are the only thing that stands between where you are right now and where you

absolutely want to be.

 

Then let go of anything else.

Then let go of anything else.

 

Resilience is an empty vessel without asking for help.

Let’s talk and get you the answers you need to make your life

the way you want it to be.

 

5 Elements of Leadership that Often Fall Short

It’s easy to talk about leadership development as a focus, and to imagine that organizations are filled with great leaders. Unfortunately that’s not always the way it is.  The reality is all too often far different.

Here’s some evidence:

According to an SHRM 2017 Survey, only 51% of employees are satisfied, or very satisfied with their job. A staggering 40% will be looking for alternative employment in the next 12 months.  While people look for openness and transparency within the organization only about one third feel it exists.

Great leaders initiate desired action. They go first. They hold something up as a worthy cause that inspires others’ participation for the greater good. While being the one who sets it all in motion.

Here are 5 Elements of Leadership that often fall short:

  1. When I give my word I always honor it.

People often have good intentions but don’t follow through. Do you actually do what you say you’re going to do? Are you honoring the promises you’ve made to yourself?

  1. I have people’s best interest in mind in every interaction.

Do you demonstrate that you care about the people around you? Are you supportive to their career growth, even if that means you lose them? Will you tell them the truth, even if it’s not what they want to hear but need to hear?

  1. I’m willing to accept personal responsibility for my errors, mistakes and misunderstandings.

Excuses and rationalizations for substandard efforts and performance are far too common. Are you willing to own your behaviors and actions that fall short of desired outcomes?

  1. I believe in full disclosure of all relevant facts and information about myself and anything I’m involved in that impacts you.

Conflicts of interest are often higher than people realize and will admit. Withholding pertinent information that affects people’s lives does not foster an open, high trust environment. How do you initiate trust?

 I receive compensation for my work and I disclose all the ways I receive compensation so that you have a full and complete understanding of what influences me.

People want to feel that they are part of something important, and to understand how their role fits within the organization. Hidden agendas that push people in certain directions for self-interests are surprisingly common.  Are your personal interests aligned with the best interests of the people who report to you?

High turnover, low morale, conflicts, and substandard performance will inevitably continue until there is either a change in leadership personnel, or a transformation in existing leadership.

That transformation is not happening with the current model of leadership development.

People don’t change because they are told to, or because of personality profiles. They change when they are able to see themselves differently, and are given the tools that influence the human dynamics of the workplace.   

Effective leadership isn’t about perfection, it’s about evolution.

What’s the focus of your leadership development?

Connect with me to talk about the human elements that create transformational change.

10 Ways to Honor My Vision

The repetitive nature of life is where the lessons exist.

  • To what degree do I resist the complacency in my life?
  • To what degree do I resist my own wisdom?
  • If I’m not happy today, where will that come from?

You already know that if you have a goal or vision of what you want, you also need a solid plan to make it happen.

Here are the active elements where performance gaps can be identified.

10 Ways to Honor the Integrity of My Vision

  1. I know exactly what I want. And I know why.
  2. I am able to understand and truthfully admit, where I am now compared to that.
  3. I know what’s needed from me in terms of effort, focus and commitment.
  4. I’m working on it. I’m doing it. I’m deeply engaged.
  5. I aware of and able to acknowledge my own interference. I know where I’m getting in my own way and doing something about it.
  6. I am willing to accept help, guidance and direction.
  7. I doing what’s necessary based on priority payoffs, and going about my day like I mean it.
  8. I’m tracking my activities and progress so that I notice trends, patterns and obstacles.
  9. I’m making adjustments as needed.
  10. I’m focusing on Who I need to be more than what I need to do. Because when I know Who I am, and I honor that, I know what to do. And I do it more effectively.

Shortcut Bonus:

The shortfalls most often occur in the gaps in your belief systems, your knowledge/understanding, and your effort.

Bridging these gaps can require a willingness to allow guidance to replace ego in your pursuits of success.

Talk with me today if you’re ready to accelerate your success.

The Execution Risk of Leading is High

Getting people information is not the same as giving them an understanding of what’s needed.

More information isn’t the answer.

Understanding what’s needed, and being able to deliver that are.

How will you help with that?

There’s an abundance of information out there. But there’s a shortage of wisdom and understanding.

How will you deepen influence?

What’s your game plan? Where will the answers and understanding come from?

Let’s examine some simple qualities; honesty, integrity, openness, trustworthiness, kindness, initiation, and engagement.

In any interaction we can calibrate whether these qualities exist or not, and to what level.

In any interaction only 1 of 3 things is happening. You are either:

  • Diminishing the interaction
  • Supporting the interaction
  • Elevating the interaction

What moves the dial towards elevation vs. diminishment?

That’s where influence deepens.

Self-development is empowerment.

Our greatest decision is who we decide to become.

 

If you’re ready to move the dial, reach out to me.

 

10 Principles of Peak Performance

Some people are interested in achievement, while others are committed. What happens next is a direct result of those choices.

Here are 10 Principles that help create Peak Performance:

  1. Clarity of Vision- This includes specific goals and outcomes that are easily measured. It also includes an elevated vision of Self. When you know Who you are, you tend to know What to do.
  2. Self-Directed Action– Always in the direction of the desired outcomes. The pre-occupation with the vision creates inspired action. All peak performers are self-motivated.
  3. High Commitment to Personal Role and Responsibility- The relentless willingness to do what’s needed, along with the determination to see the journey through, provide resilience to overcome obstacles relatively easily.
  4. Mindset of Empowerment- The “I’ve got this” focus of active positive messaging despite setbacks are all self-generated. Self-doubt is rare.
  5. Willingness to Learn– A high desire for insights that provide a competitive edge brings an openness to engage experts.
  6. Improvement, Elevation and Expansion Focus– “What makes me better?” Past success fades, and the exuberance of what else is possible replaces complacency. Refined action displaces disappointment or fear.
  7. Engagement Hunger- There’s a high desire to push Self towards outcomes while finding personal satisfaction within the effort.
  8. Working Wisdom and Honesty- The effort is focused for maximum payoff within hierarchical priorities. There’s an understanding that effort is impaired by a variety of human factors that may require balance offsets. Peak performers tell themselves the truth about how well they are doing their part.
  9. Anticipation Sensing– The ability to see, feel and know with certainty that the desired outcomes will happen. The vision becomes inevitable because of the level of personal effort and creativity.
  10. Refinement and Enjoyment- There’s an ongoing curiosity about what might be more effective, and a recognition that even the smallest distinction could create an enormous payoff. It feels good to be immersed in the hard work that creates the desired outcomes.

In my experience as a trusted advisor to many highly successful people including; Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Executives and Technology Visionary’s, this theme is consistent:

Believing in yourself is not enough.

Knowing Who you are, and the Mindset that What you want is Inevitable; are the real game-changers.

Reach out and we’ll talk about what’s important to you.

Leaders Who Inspire Turnover

All organizations are a reflection of their leadership.

Can people lead effectively without demonstrating emotional competence?

Many leaders unintentionally demonstrate behaviors that interfere with and jeopardize people feeling valued and supported.

A leader who demonstrates anger, condescension, avoidance, and verbally cutting people to ribbons, may not be fit to lead.

It is also clear as research suggests, that a rise in power often leads to a lack of empathy. This disconnects the leader even more from their personnel.

Many leaders talk about valuing their people, but often don’t do it.

Both non-supportive and disengaged leaders inspire turnover.

Effective leaders do not participate in diminishing people.

They hold others to high ideals and standards through supportive, reinforcing behaviors, tones, and attitudes.

But no leader can do that effectively without holding themselves up as examples of the desired behaviors, activities and conversations.

For how long will you work your heart out and give your best for a boss who treats you with negativity, or ignores you?

This is the top reason people leave an organization, and an uncaring mindset that creates mediocrity.

Competent leaders:

  • Are emotionally fit for their roles.
  • Can support, mentor and inspire performance.
  • Demonstrate they genuinely care for their people.
  • Are open and wiling to listen.
  • Initiate trust.
  • Are able to have the difficult conversations and are emotionally fit to do so.

Competent leaders are willing and able to facilitate those struggling and in conflicts, while working towards resolutions with dignity, instead of diminishment.

Here is an unwelcome truth: In order to reduce turnover; the leaders must change, or the organization must change the leaders.

While people may continue to leave for a better opportunity, they will no longer leave because of an uncaring, non-supportive, or dis-engaged boss.

Any organization where leadership is non-supportive or dis-engaged will result in greater turnover, more interpersonal conflicts, low morale and lackluster performance.

Setting more goals and having more meetings won’t help.

A workplace intervention is what’s needed. An honest assessment of the dynamics of the leadership must be done if turn-around is truly desired.

At the very core of all turnover an important truth is either unknown or ignored:

Do you have the right people in the right positions of leadership?

  •        Are they demonstrating competence?
  •        Are they demonstrating caring and support for their personnel?
  •        Are they willing to learn, and develop themselves?
  •        Are they emotionally fit for their positions?
  •        Do they the skills to mentor others?
  •        Do they actively model what the organization claims to want?

The spotlight of truth is the start of transformational change. Without it, no change is ever possible.

If you’d like my thoughts on improving leadership, reach out here. 

 

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not. – Dr. Seuss

 

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The Art of Self-Neglect

The most trying times in life are not the struggles as much as our internal dilemma:

  • Do we choose to rise up, or not?
  • Do we decide that we are bigger than this thing, or not?
  • Do we accept our capacity to work our way through?

Will we honor the truth; that we have more strength and resilience inside each of us, waiting patiently to be discovered?

In the hurry up living that we all too often find ourselves engulfed in, Where do we allow for moments of offset?

  • Offsets to stress
  • Offsets to self-neglect
  • Offsets to unhappiness
  • Offsets to unhealthy lifestyles
  • Offsets to relationship dysfunction
  • Offsets to burnout and overwhelm

Some part of us yearns for more aliveness in the choices we are making, more depth to the meanings in our lives, and greater inner peace.

The funny thing is while we may want those things; Who has the time?

Unfortunately, to choose self-neglect over anything else is unwise. as the consequences inevitably find their way too us.

Time is short. Choose wisely.

Talk to me.

  1. You’ll know the most important areas of overall life success.
  2. You’ll know what’s needed for greater personal fulfillment and happiness.
  3. You’ll know what to do next.

Measure Your Greatness

There is only one personally meaningful measure of greatness.

That you gave your gifts without apology and at such a high level you inspired others to reach for the same or more, while being personally at peace with yourself.

There is no greatness if you never feel at peace with your effort or achievements, because you will always feel unsatisfied.

It’s hard to feel great if you are filled with regret, or never gave your best, or never achieved the level of success you aspired to.

In my conversations with Olympic and Professional Athletes, Emmy Award Winners, Fortune 500 Sr. Executives and other highly successful people, one thing is clear:

The inner peace comes only from the self-honesty of whether you laid it all on the line or not.

Measured perhaps by the mirror test that the most decorated US Winter Olympic Athlete  Apolo Ohno talks about in his book Zero Regrets;

  • “Did I do everything I could today to become a champion?”

You might ask; Did i do everything I could today to achieve my outcomes?

Did I personally win the day with my effort, my focus, my commitment, my resolve, and my leadership?

The mark of greatness lends itself to being fully aware of these things.

The other element is how you handle pressure.

The higher the level, the greater the heat.

Great people are able to meet pressure with the delivery of their best effort while embracing the pressure. Some part of them wants to lay it all on the line giving their best; win or lose.

While everyone wants to win, or achieve at high levels, giving everything you have is in some ways more meaningful.

Maybe victory over self is the sweetest victory of all.

The imposter syndrome defines those who would fear to be found out as frauds for achieving their attained levels of success, because they have not had to dig deep inside themselves to give their best effort, nor had to overcome harsh adversities on their path to success. In many ways their path was too easy, and knowing this eats away at their self-worth.

Awards and achievements will never fulfill compared to the personal satisfaction and inner peace obtained through the delivery of your best.

And if you aspire to do great things, you will find that the delivery of your best is an upward moving target.

Reach out to me here if you are ready to tap into more of your own greatness.

 

 

Healing Your Emotional Life for Good

First some background.

Everything you’ve seen, felt, and experienced has been stored away in your mind.

Even the things you didn’t want to see and hear are recorded in the background of your unconscious mind.

Besides the obvious events, this is how things get in:

Whatever you do, don’t think about the blue giraffe with the pink bow. Don’t think about that blue giraffe and pink bow. Try harder not to think about the blue giraffe and pink bow.  

In order to understand this thought, your brain has to show you the image even if you don’t want to see it. That’s the way unpleasant experiences get recorded even when you want to forget them.

Everything that has ever happened to you in your life is archived and part of your programming.

As a result, we are all on auto-pilot more than we realize.

This is how habitual ways of thinking and feeling occur within us. When your buttons get pushed it’s usually more programming than the current thing that person said or did.

What you may not know is that you have the power to take control of your emotions, and to upgrade your own programming.

Think of it like this:

Imagine an enormous white board surrounding you, filled with everything that’s happened to you and everything you’ve ever heard and experienced.

Some examples:

That thing that happened to you in 1st grade, What your mom said when you were 9, That thing you did and got hurt, That person who said you weren’t good enough, The girl who rejected you, The boy who broke your heart, The emptiness you felt when….., That person who didn’t like you, That time you felt shame, That time your feelings were ignored, That big mistake you made, …etc.

That’s a tiny sample of your unconscious world and what drives your programming.

The only way to change your programming is to get in there and erase some of the nonsense on your white board.

It doesn’t happen by talking about the specific issues.

And it won’t happen by saying these types of things over and over to yourself:

“Don’t get angry, Don’t get sad, Don’t get upset, Don’t get frustrated, Don’t get anxious, Don’t feel guilty, Don’t compare yourself,” etc….

Here’s one way that will begin to wipe away the things that don’t serve you.

Start talking to your body, and telling parts of it that you love them.  

As the author of The Accelerated Healing of Chronic Illness, I have found these conversations to be highly effective in erasing disempowering unconscious programing. I’ve also done it with hundreds of people so I have good evidence to support this.

Here’s how you begin to heal your emotional life for good:

  1. Find someplace quiet where you won’t be interrupted for 5 minutes.
  2. Close your eyes, and scan your body from a place of curiosity, and just be aware of how you feel and what you notice. That will take less than 30 seconds.
  3. Tell your body and a variety of body parts that you love them. Simply tune into a particular body part and say,” I love you”, and feel grateful for that body part. Go slowly and take about 10 seconds for each body part before moving on.

It might look like this:

I tune into my heart. And I might even imagine an image of my heart, or simply focus on connecting  with my heart. I could put my hand over my heart to increase the feeling of connection as well.

Next, while feeling grateful for my heart, either out loud or to myself I say, ” I love you heart”,….and …“Thank you for all you do for me.”  I do that slowly and meaningfully, while feeling grateful for my heart.  That’s it.

  1. notice what happens… Are you aware of anything changing; either in how you feel, or in any imagined image of your heart before compared with after? Do feel differently in any way? There is no right or wrong about what happens, or doesn’t happen. Either way is perfectly fine.
  2. Next, pick another body part and do the same thing. Notice if you sense that some particular part of your body might benefit. Try different parts of your body out of curiosity. Try your liver, brain, eyes, nervous system, thyroid, spleen, lungs, etc….Keep going to different body parts for about 5 minutes and you are done.

Now that you’re done, scan your body again, and be curious how you feel overall, and if you feel or notice any other changes.

This is a profoundly powerful exercise. It was part of my self-heaiing process that allowed me to heal myself from eight years of undiagnosed chronic Lyme Disease. It works.

Try this out for yourself without expectations of any kind. Just be willing to see what happens for yourself.  Make it part of your daily routine by setting aside 5 minutes at about the same time every day,  or as often as you like.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised. Enjoy!

If you want to learn how to accelerate your own evolution, and release the hidden emotions driving your behaviors reach out here; jeff@peakresultscoaching.com