Listen to your heart, or someone else?
I imagine as a child, or even as a teen that you had dreams to do something big in your life. Did you achieve those dreams, or did you get sidetracked by someone else’s reality.
My dream was to play major college football. When I asked my high school coach to send a game film out to a top level school, he laughed out loud, and said that I couldn’t possibly play at that level of competition. Having someone I respected laugh in my face wasn’t much fun.
Now I could have listened to him and done what he suggested, and given up on my dream. But it was my dream. Who was he to say that it wasn’t possible for me?
I remember telling my father I was going to become a financial advisor, and that the lowest paid financial advisor in the office was making more than $45,000 at the time, which was more than he was making. He told me that was BS and that it wasn’t possible.
When I became a financial advisor, 4 weeks into the job, the most successful financial advisor in the region took me aside and told me that I would never make it, that I wasn’t any good at it, and that I should quit because it just wasn’t for me. He said that there were better things suited for me, and I was just wasting my time. But it wasn’t up to him. It was up to me.
How many people have counted you out and you let them? My own list of naysayers is extensive. If I had listened to the doctors, and teachers, and coaches and experts, I would never have achieved any of the success that I’ve had. My life experience would be totally different, and I would be different too.
My ability to focus totally on what I wanted, no matter what anyone was saying, no matter what anyone else thought about me, was crucial to my success. My willingness to do whatever it took to make my dreams happen was the intangible that others couldn’t comprehend.
If I was going to fail at anything, I was going to fail giving everything that I had to create my vision. Who could possibly predict my outcome when they didn’t understand my mindset of determination and commitment? How could anyone anticipate my willingness to give a total effort? Who could predict what I was willing to sacrifice, and endure, to get what I wanted. Most importantly, who could ever know how much I believed in me?
I did play major college football with full scholarships and on national TV, and in the Rose Bowl. I did become very successful as a financial advisor, and then as a manager of financial advisors (another story of what was not possible) that led to a successful 24 year career. I also made lots of mistakes that were all part of the process of growing and learning.
My mindset was everything in my success. Have you ever wanted something so badly in your life that you were willing to do anything to make it happen? For me, a resolve takes over, and I can feel it inside, and then the thing I want is already done. Then I get to work on it.
What you believe about yourself becomes your truth. Decide what you want to make happen in your life. Engage your mindset for success. Decide on the dreams you want to pursue with all of your heart. Then go do it. I believe that great things are possible for you, and even though I may not know you yet… I believe in you!